We surveyed 5,024 members of our online dating networks to find what noises and words people liked to hear during sex. Get it right and it can improve your partners experience but get it wrong and it’s a total turn off that ruins the moment.
We hope these results take the pressure off you a little and give you a head start in making sure you’re making the right sounds and saying the right things.
Our survey focuses on straight males and females internationally.
The infographic below will help you get the results quickly, then we will discuss them in more detail.
HOWEVER, how many people liked each sound between genders varied and therefore makes it more of a challenge, especially for the men. Here are the results in more detail:
|What they say||Men like||Women like|
76.8% of men what to hear her talk dirty vs. 73.5% for women. May be best to plan some key phrases in advance so you don't have to come up with something on the spot. You're going to need a few so you don't have to repeat yourself. Be prepared for some replies and possibly some questions to answer. Cock it up and you both could end up laughing. This is certainly not easy to master but with 3 out of 4 people liking it you should practice.
Not a simple yes or no, 60.1% of men like it and only 45.9% of women. May be best to start with light breathing and see if he or she reacts positivity. Slow and steady!
Now things are getting more difficult to judge for the women, you have approximately a 50/50 chance that he will like you to scream. Men, at 36.2% you should probably not even consider screaming!
It's interesting to see such a difference between swearing and talking dirty. This suggests that talking dirty should not include swear words. However, some swear words are likely to be acceptable especially at the point of orgasm.
At 27.9% for men and 14.8% for woman it's best that no one squeaks. The only thing that should be squeaking is the bed but even that can be off putting sometimes!
Silence is the only response where the women prefer it over the men, however it's not very popular. May be okay if you're staying in the spare room at the in-laws but other than that, it's a no no.
Worst things men hear
1. Saying the wrong name
2. I need a poo
3. Whats the time?
4. Is that it?
5. Get it over as quickly as possible
6. Do you think your Mom has ever tried this position?
7. What do you want for dinner tomorrow?
8. You remind me of my dad . .
9. You're a bit small
10. What was your name again?
Worst things women hear
1. Saying the wrong name
2. I can't do it
3. I'm going soft
4. Did you do this with your ex?
5. What's your sister like?
6. What should I do next ?
7. I don't love you
8. I'm breaking up with you after this
9. Can I call you mum?
10. You're almost as good as my ex